IKHTILAT

IKHTILAT

Definition of Ikhtilat:

The mix between women and men in one place, either in groups or alone. The meeting, which makes them looking and communicate.

In urgent situations (Dharurah)

- Save from the disadvantages of larger like, lost their lives in an accident or dangerous situation, loss of dignity and others.

In case of need (Wish) :

- Spreading Dakwah, namely “Amar Makruf Nahi Mungkar ”

- In learning (classroom)

- Selling and buying

- Judicial Work

- Witness

- Entertain guests

- In a public transport

- performing the Hajj and Umrah.

And, every ikhtilat also must comply with the following conditions:

- Do not touch

- Keeping the nakedness

- Keeping manners to talk

- Separating the place (in certain places).

1)Between the limits of the association that must be taken care of are:

1.      Avoid dealing with men, while they can and have the opportunity to ask for help than women. Except in matters which are beyond the ability of women such as in the case of car repair, repair laptops and so on. Due to the inability of women in it, and therefore had to eventually ask for help than men. In this case it is required.

2.      2)If you have to communicate with men, use a medium in the form of writing such as SMS, e-mail or a little note. Use formal words, rather than the language of the market. Example: sorry (not Torrie ..), thanks (not time atchoo). Another, no need to create a smiley face to =), Giggles to (lol ..), and others that are less advantageous.

And avoid talking over the phone if you do not totally desperate. This is because a woman's voice was very soft and soulful human male named. Refer Surah Al-Ahzab, verse 32:

"O wives of the prophet, you are not like other women if you are righteous. So do not be weak-softening the voice in speaking, so stir the passions of people who have a disease in their hearts, and speak a good word. "

3.      3)Keep your heart. When forced to deal with a man, we should have felt the hairs stand on end, because we are afraid of GOD! We are very afraid that because of us, man is attracted to us. When confronted with the men, plenty of forgiveness and pray.

4.      4)Keep your views. Do not be fooled by the subject of communication skills we've learned, "make eye contact with the person you're talking to  ...” It can be applied if we are talking with a fellow sex only. If there is eye contact with a person of the opposite sex, we would have found the theory "of the eye to the heart," it really can happen.

5.     5) Avoiding smells or perfumes that can make men attracted to them, and also avoid bright colours and interesting too, which should only be used at home rather than at a meeting with the guy.

6.      6)Never let only a man and a woman meet without a mahram with them, it's forbidden in an authentic hadith about it, (actually the third of them is a devil), should not let the fire and the wood together (getting burnt la if allowed both). The fit is also taken care of the immediate family, such as father-in-law, brother in law and anyone who is not mahram than alone.

7.     7) Let the meeting was only in the range of the intent (eg meetings) and the things that are necessary, there is no need to extend to matters outside of the celebrations was that by chatting, gossiping, rumours or things that can distract from the real purpose of the meeting .

8.     8) Speed up business. This may be applicable to students or people who are already working and have to deal with a team man. I'm can not be avoided, they only teammate us. So, any work done together, doing the only job. No need for a yarn kid, ask personal things, out laughing, joking ... NO NEED! Prepare the working quickly, then go.

9.    9) Place for discussions also keep in place an open and dealing professionally.